im sorry im somewhat of a cruel minded/mouthed person on the internet. im only not cruel in person...
Fair enough, I personally never implied that you shouldn't be. I only asked that you clarify yourself more, and that you open your mind to other possibilities.
okay let me clarify larger people... what i mean is the poeple who are seriously trying to do something like gunner yuna and their obviously not anywhere near the same body size... as in like obese...
Reality check, these are fictional characters we are talking about. Their body size does not truly exist. Some females are drawn with boobs physically larger than their heads and waists so small that you would literally need ribs surgically removed to achieve the same size ratio.
Eyes are disproportioned, hands and feet are tiny, and things that
should droop towards the ground are undeniably perky. There is no living human with the body type for certain anime characters.
As for obese people, well, it seems I must make a few things clearer for you. First you say "im not saying these people shouldnt cosplay im more of the mind that they should use what they have going for them".
The point that a few of us were trying to illustrate is that choosing based on body type drastically lowers the amount of characters you can cosplay as. Pleasing other people and looking cool is only a
small part of what cosplaying is about. The appeal to dressing up in a costume is to feel cool and to have fun, to show appreciation for a character, to act like a kid, to be a hero. It's gratifying and self-driven. Choosing a character to cosplay as should
never be narrowed down by body type. An obese person can cosplay without looking garrish or trashy, and they shouldn't be limited to character that they don't like or know just because the ones they want are skinnier than them.
To kill the fun of cosplaying is to eliminate the heart of cosplaying. You may enjoy seeing large fuzzy and cute characters cosplayed by larger people, but they may not enjoy it themselves. Don't be so imposing in your veiws on this subject.
now, one thing i really hate is for ppl to misunderstand me, my cruelty comes from honesty.
I'm going to go off on a really quick tanget here and explain something to you:
There is no such thing as perfect communication, especially when all communication is in the form of written text without the aid of facial expressions and tones to convey your meaning. You
will be misunderstood. Almost always. And you
will learn to live with it or you
will eventually get frustrated with forums and stop communicating via internet altogether.
We are all trying our best to understand your point. No need to feel attacked, no need to get defensive, no need to feel misunderstood. Be as clear and concise as possible and explain all of your points clearly. Be patient when people take it the wrong way, and come back and explain yourself until you are properly understood. There is no way around this process.
i too have a good amount of large friends, and ppl who are not the stunning image of sexyness and when they ask me what they should cosplay as, i usualy end up telling them "dont go for something you're obviously not, go for something that could be you. its alot cooler that way"
I have never accused you of not knowing what you are talking about, but nevertheless, it is nice to know that you have firsthand experience in this matter.
Concerning your friends and talking them out of doing the cosplays they want to do, I will say only this: I think that you should listen to thier reasons for choosing the characters they cosplay and then consider those reasons before you offer them your own ideas.
Your honesty is very admirable, but don't forgoe the other person's feelings in favor of honesty. In the end, if the message is too harsh the person won't be receptive to what you are saying and neither party will benefit from the interaction. Also keep in mind that if it really isn't hurting anybody, is it wrong that they are cosplaying in the characters of thier choice?
i could image i sound like a jack ass with his foot in his mouth or something like that, but i refuse to curb my opinions just to be nice... i suppose the best thing i could do whould be to say im sorry... but im not.
I suppose this is your "cruel" side coming out. Look, I'm not going to pick a fight with you, and I don't know why you seem to feel like you are in a confrontation, but you stated that you didn't like something and now people are stating that they disagree with you. That is all that has happened here.
No one has asked you to curb your opinions. Maybe because the majority of us disagree with you, you are starting to feel outnumbered and attacked. But we just want to tell you that, yes, we understand you don't like it, but we do and we'll tell you why.
You don't sound like a jack-ass, you just sound honest and very defensive.
