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Offline Jacob_Blackfeather

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« on: April 14, 2010, 09:46:52 pm »
Does it happen to you?

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #1 on: April 14, 2010, 09:49:49 pm »
it depends on the definition.

are you really sure you want to start a topic on this?
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #2 on: April 14, 2010, 10:35:18 pm »
wth.



Abuse.


Uhhhhh...Well some kid tried to beat me up but then he walked away...I had bloody knuckles...YA THAT SHOWED HIM. DONT MESS WITH THE NIKSTER.

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #3 on: April 14, 2010, 10:47:15 pm »
I'm not sure if this is serious or not because, well, it's in a section that is rarely ever taken seriously.
I know that I wouldn't feel like disclosing a bunch of personal stuff on a spam thread of all places... but that's just me. >.>

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #4 on: April 14, 2010, 10:48:00 pm »
this is serious because it happens to me

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #5 on: April 14, 2010, 10:50:18 pm »
If it's that serious, I don't think we should talk about it here. I think that this is completely out of place and that we shouldn't talk about such personal issues here.

However, I'm not a mod, and it's up to them in the end.

So, pretty much, this to what Maki said.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #6 on: April 14, 2010, 10:55:47 pm »
^^^ It was a stupid random dude...Theres just one group that thinks they can beat anyone up in school....Just because he was one foot taller he think he could bet me up.


Well no. I used science and said "NO!" ....We fought for like under a minute and then he just walked away....  >.> I dont get people these days..

Uhhhh.....Abuse happens all the time. My body abuses itself sometimes...Like how my appendix comimitted Suicide.....Yah that was cool.

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #7 on: April 14, 2010, 10:56:56 pm »
I have tried all of these things

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #8 on: April 14, 2010, 10:57:52 pm »
Then someone you can trust.



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Re: Abuse
« Reply #9 on: April 14, 2010, 10:58:58 pm »
So, is this more like a general question or a talk thread to find support and/or better alternatives? Either way, if you feel like sharing or need to talk to someone or vent, I can listen  :)

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #10 on: April 14, 2010, 11:02:10 pm »
alright thank you

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #11 on: April 14, 2010, 11:04:45 pm »
I can listen 2 yo.

^^

Whut. it was a immature teenager. I live in Portland- the land of BAMF.

( Oh and how do you do that cool face thing?)

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #12 on: April 14, 2010, 11:06:08 pm »
cool face thing??

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #13 on: April 14, 2010, 11:07:16 pm »
The face Makichan did..

Anyway...PM your problems dude.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #14 on: April 14, 2010, 11:08:37 pm »
ಠ_ಠ

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #15 on: April 14, 2010, 11:10:24 pm »
-_-....Yes. How do you make that face?

And 2nd.

Your problem?

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #16 on: April 14, 2010, 11:10:45 pm »
alright thank you
No problem :>
Feel free to pm me whenever you feel comfortable sharing. We can chat, chill, or something.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #17 on: April 14, 2010, 11:11:56 pm »
thank you I will

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #18 on: April 14, 2010, 11:27:16 pm »
I never thought this topic would take off at first.

But since it has, I'll openly say that a year ago I've taken what I won't call verbal abuse, more like misunderstandings on both sides, leading to harassing posts against me for posts I made that made me sound like someone I'm not. But through some posting in my defense by a couple other forum members and a mod to hear both sides and smooth things out, everything calmed down.

Other than that I haven't taken anything that I'd consider abuse, on here or anywhere else. Though I'm willing to listen and see what I can do to help someone who's being a victim of abuse.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #19 on: April 14, 2010, 11:28:39 pm »
turbo your one of the nicest people on here and i have met almost everyone on here and I am nice but sometimes I can be rather mean without trying to be.

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #20 on: April 14, 2010, 11:33:49 pm »
Yeah man...Turbo's cool dude.

First time I saw him I got a warm feeling.

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #21 on: April 14, 2010, 11:35:04 pm »
naru XD

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #22 on: April 14, 2010, 11:41:44 pm »
turbo your one of the nicest people on here and i have met almost everyone on here and I am nice but sometimes I can be rather mean without trying to be.
Thanks, and the only time I ever saw you be kinda mean was when you were staffing at this last MEWcon, but that's understandable.
As a con staff, sometimes you have to be the bad guy in order to keep things in order, plus as a staffer you might not get all the sleep you wish you had and it shows over the rest of the con. Just something that can't be helped.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #23 on: April 14, 2010, 11:45:24 pm »
naru XD

A warm feeling....in the HEART....

What did ya think dude!?

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #24 on: April 14, 2010, 11:48:32 pm »
Not only that but at mewcon I had phunomia

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #25 on: April 14, 2010, 11:55:36 pm »
Ohh booger.
They should have given you a purple heart then, even one made of paper that says "job well done, get better soon."
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #26 on: April 14, 2010, 11:58:36 pm »
Nahh it's fine.

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #27 on: April 15, 2010, 12:53:30 pm »
*chuckles* I've suffered far more abuse then I'd care to list. But lets just say im still around and not letting it get to me. But if you or anyone needs to talk, just pm me, I make a good sounding board and I dont judge
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #28 on: April 15, 2010, 01:29:39 pm »
You gotta rise above the meanies! If you let them get to you then THEY win.

Thats how I've always gotten ahead of the bad guys in life! Thinking positive
and staying optimistic!

Hope you guys are doing okay though! Don't dwell on the pain, it only makes it
worse.

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #29 on: April 15, 2010, 02:06:35 pm »
Well the madness of games and going out (sometimes to play games), is my escape from the chaos and cruelty the world has. That's why I play Amtgard, why I own TCG cards, why I love my 360 and...why I cosplay.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #30 on: April 15, 2010, 02:22:47 pm »
Okay folks I'll be bluntly honest withy ou. I'm legally blind and i recently (That is around 2005 or 06') discovered I have a mild form of Asberger's Syndrome. I've gotten my share of (Cough, cough, ahem.) nonsense from teachers and student alike in my public school years and i didn't handle it well because wll just say I had certain relatives who were less than helpful. Of course I started to rise above it when three things happened:

1. My wonderfully lude, crude, and obnoxious stepfather entered the picture.

2. I went to Mt. Hood Community College and the maturity level jumped by leaps and bounds.

3. I got involved in Taekwondo.

And i can say in all honesty I'm happier now then i ever was in the past. Yeah i got picked on yeah i got abused but you know what good things come to honorable people sooner or later. that's just how the universe works.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #31 on: April 16, 2010, 05:11:40 pm »
I'd just like to point out that if any of you have an unhealthy coping mechanism
(you'd know it's unhealthy if you use it) which is causing you or friends or family
members stress, there is help available to you and you don't have to go through
abuse or neglect alone, or with unhealthy coping mechanisms.

I don't think directly linking to the website I trust is appropriate here, but if you
are interested in knowing about this website for any reason (curiosity, help, for
friends, for family etc...) PM me and I'll give you the link.

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #32 on: April 16, 2010, 05:13:45 pm »
Well the madness of games and going out (sometimes to play games), is my escape from the chaos and cruelty the world has. That's why I play Amtgard, why I own TCG cards, why I love my 360 and...why I cosplay.

I fart really hard and just say " aaahhhhhh...."

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #33 on: April 19, 2010, 05:11:34 pm »
That works too.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #34 on: April 19, 2010, 06:46:21 pm »
I was abused, but thats in the past now, and I don't like to talk about it. But it's always good to talk about it eventually.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #35 on: April 19, 2010, 08:26:56 pm »
When I was a lot younger (about from 2 years to 7 years) I was abused a lot by my father, physical and mental. I saw him try to do things to my mother and when I cracked my head open three times he would never let me go to the hospital, he didn't even care when we found out that I had three holes in my heart.

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #36 on: April 19, 2010, 09:58:25 pm »
EDIT: Y'know, on second thought, I'm not sure I wanna talk about it on here lol.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #37 on: April 20, 2010, 07:45:15 am »
^lol

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #38 on: April 20, 2010, 07:40:13 pm »
Good luck man, I hope you find what you need.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #39 on: April 20, 2010, 08:30:24 pm »
my heart goes out to you friends! i hope things get better and not... unbetter> lol insert motivational catchphrase here

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #40 on: April 20, 2010, 09:03:20 pm »
Angelicccca you can't be abusssed or my android self might have to kick their butts. :0

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #41 on: April 20, 2010, 09:39:02 pm »
then take me away :O

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #42 on: April 20, 2010, 09:40:09 pm »
Kidnapping doesn't work well with under 18-year-olds :0

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #43 on: April 20, 2010, 09:54:49 pm »
tho rules of emancipation after the age of 16 in oregon I believe in oregon with written consent from a perent.
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #44 on: April 20, 2010, 09:56:18 pm »
I am sixteen but i don't know how to do the whole emancipation thing.

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #45 on: April 20, 2010, 11:08:36 pm »
Actually, special cases can be made anyway if you weren't. :3

/used to be dumb and searched it

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #46 on: April 20, 2010, 11:10:15 pm »
I dun know DX

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #47 on: April 20, 2010, 11:14:03 pm »
I've been eyeing this thread for to long. > u <

I have been through very harsh cases of abuse from all types. But I really have no one to gripe away my troubles to. I'd post whats been going on, on this thread but...it's a little to violent for a family forum.

I've been going through an emancipation for it.

And Jacob, I think if I were you I'd try and wait it out. Even if your case is like mine you have to have a stable job, be making $700 a month, able to support yourself AND just with everyones luck the emancipation is a wonderious non-refundable $1,200.

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Re: Abuse
« Reply #48 on: April 21, 2010, 10:10:07 am »
I've had several friends who, through no fault of their own I could find,
were kicked out of there houses or made clear that they were not welcome.
A few of them actually left on their own because people at their homes (very
rarely a biological parent or sibling) made it an unhealthy enviornment.

Each of these friends though, found someone close to them whose family was
willing to take them in. At younger ages parents will take friends in (depending
on the family and circumstance) but almost everyone has someone they can
rely on whose parents want to protect you.

At an older age, a few of my friends asked their friends parents for a place to
be safe in exchange for chores or a small rent (like $40/mo of their work pay)
and so they had a home they could come to, while they were working out things
with their folks.

That may not work for everyone, but never be too proud to ask, it may suprise you
who in your friend group as an open couch and an open heart.

Older people who live with family may consider moving to a relatives house to "help"
I didn't want to move back in with my parents after the economy went south so I
moved in with my grandmother and am her help and her watch since she lives alone
and on her own. Its a good compromise and it has helped me build a better relationship
with my parents. (not great but better)
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Re: Abuse
« Reply #49 on: April 21, 2010, 10:22:17 am »
If you need to get away, and I mean AWAY talk to me. I would gladly take you in, any of you. My parents are very supportive, and would love for me to have another person around the house.
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