Less than three.

[nintendiehard]

In another thread, relationships took over the topic for a bit, and so I figured that a relationship thread would be worth taklin' about.
This is a place to talk about the good (<3) and the not so good (</3).  Advice, tips, or just stories you'd like to share.  Get sappy, get sad, get angry.  Lord knows we all need to talk about it sometimes right?
No specific topic so next person, take it away.

I felt a picture was in order, and though I'm not really into Naruto, I really like this pic.
Sorry it's kinda big, but you need it to see the detail.  I like the eyes personally.

[nintendiehard]

Okay, this is just kinda sad now.  Am I to assume that I'm the only one who has ever been in a relationship?  Some of you are married with kids!

[Kotoumi]

I've technically only had one boyfriend ever (I'm 17, haha~), but I've been set up with two people.

The first setup was between my ex and I, in eighth grade.  We went to the 8th Grade Dance, then two months later I broke up with him over the internet because he was too clingy.
...And I can't take or give rejection in person.  We quickly stopped talking and avoided each other.
Yay.

The second setup was between the ex's friend and I, and we became friends for a while, then dropped out of contact.

I know one thing:  That's the last time I ever let my close friends do that to me.
They. Never. Work.

[totemo_oishii]

I am rather sad when it comes to relationships, unfortunately.

^{But there is someone out there for me...I hope!}

[nintendiehard]

I've technically only had one boyfriend ever (I'm 17, haha~), but I've been set up with two people.

The first setup was between my ex and I, in eighth grade.  We went to the 8th Grade Dance, then two months later I broke up with him over the internet because he was too clingy.
...And I can't take or give rejection in person.  We quickly stopped talking and avoided each other.
Yay.

The second setup was between the ex's friend and I, and we became friends for a while, then dropped out of contact.

I know one thing:  That's the last time I ever let my close friends do that to me.
They. Never. Work.

Aww, sad.  But I still think if you're going to breakup with someone, you owe it to them (unless they've been a jerk) to break up with them in person.  Glad it ended up working out though (you know what I mean). 

I am rather sad when it comes to relationships, unfortunately.

^{But there is someone out there for me...I hope!}

I've heard that saying, or others meaning basically the same thing so much, it's starting to lose it's meaning.  It's weird now, cos I'm not even interested in one-night stands or anything, I'm really wanting to get into a serious, comited relationship.
Figures.  When a guy is ready to commit, there's no one available.

Most of the time I feel just like this. http://bob-rz.deviantart.com/art/water-water-everwhere-28788287

[Cassiopeia]

I've given up on these for a while.
I had one and it did bad things to me.

[Catmegan]

 I've been going to an art school since I was 11. The thing about art schools are THERE ARE NO GUYS! ((About 1 boy to every 3 or 4 girls)). So now I'm 16 and still never even got a chance to flirt with a guy.

X_x It's ok, I don't really have time for a relationship anyways.

[EveofAbyss]

Well, Kahlan and I have been together for almost 6 years, and we are now engaged. So, yeah, there's some good news to balance out all this bad relationship karma being thrown around, lol. We met in high school, through a friend (who I met on the internet no less). So, we've got the "high school sweetheart" thing going, which is pretty cool.

And, obviously, she is super awesome and I plan to spend the rest of my life with her. So, yay for that!

[nintendiehard]

I've been going to an art school since I was 11. The thing about art schools are THERE ARE NO GUYS! ((About 1 boy to every 3 or 4 girls)). So now I'm 16 and still never even got a chance to flirt with a guy.

X_x It's ok, I don't really have time for a relationship anyways.

Dang... I should have gone to an art school.   

Sorry, couldn't help myself.

Y'know, I'm reminded of a phrase uttered by the comedian, Christian Finnegan, "Relationships are like yard sales: They look really fun from a couple hundered feet away, but eventually you realize, it's just a bunch of crap you don't need.
<applause>
Like, a yard sale...I mean, why should I spend all the money, when some other guy left it out on the street?"

 

Okay, but I guess that still doesn't stop me from wanting to be in one...I'm a freakin' hypocrite !!!

[laurifer]

I've had only one relationship. It was short, but pretty awesome. My ex is a pretty chill guy.

[Kahlan4]

i've been with eve-fiancee for almost 6 years now, and it's been amazing ^.^ he's super awesome and i love him more than words can say. he makes me so happy and just makes life so much better <3 i can't wait to get married! >.O

i don't get why people always give relationships such a bad rap... maybe because people who talk about relationships never have good ones and those that do have good ones never speak up... hrmmm. once you find the right person, you'll see that relationships are great. sure, there may be some times where things suck, but that happens with pretty much everything in life- there are always ups and downs, that's just how it is. but in a great relationship, the good outweighs the bad. and let me tell you, true love is the greatest feeling on earth, there's no other comparison to it. so i hope all of you find your soul mate and get to experience true love ^.^

[Kuri]

I've been going to an art school since I was 11. The thing about art schools are THERE ARE NO GUYS!

But the one's that are there, and are straight, are amazing.

I found my ex-guy at art school. Not only is he attractive, creative, and clever, he does an amazing Mustang cosplay. The miniskirt version even. 

[NeonFoxRocks]

 I'm 22 and have only had one technical girlfriend -.-
 The dream i just had last night sums it up, i meet a good looking girl and we hang out around this mall after dark, sneaking around n such, then in the morning we go back to a dorm type place... and she introduces me to her (not very good looking) boyfriend -.-
 I'm not worried I'm pretty picky who i hang out with but people with similar intrest don't come by very often, most new people don't know what anime is, and when they kind of have an idea they think its just cartoons -.-

[oslapedo]

I don't really want a boyfriend, besides I don't think I could handle a serious relationship unless I matured 

Honestly though, I don't really see the fuss over dating. The only difference between a couple and two friends is that the couple might engage in public make-outs. Ickky poo poo  *still believes in pinky promises and continues to fear cooties*

[Catmegan]

I've been going to an art school since I was 11. The thing about art schools are THERE ARE NO GUYS!

But the one's that are there, and are straight, are amazing.

I found my guy at art school. Not only is he attractive, creative, and clever, he does an amazing Mustang cosplay. The miniskirt version even. 

Lol, lucky you. I'm sure I'll find ze perfect man soon enough. HOPEFULLY he'll be something like your guy.

[nintendiehard]

I don't really want a boyfriend, besides I don't think I could handle a serious relationship unless I matured 

Honestly though, I don't really see the fuss over dating. The only difference between a couple and two friends is that the couple might engage in public make-outs. Ickky poo poo  *still believes in pinky promises and continues to fear cooties*

Ah, but there-in lies the problem.  You can't really mature (with respect to relationships, romantic or platonic) until you've had a few.  I'm not saying to go out looking for one, but don't avoid them.  Cut your teeth on the first few, and you'll be better for it.  I know I am.

[oslapedo]

Ah, but there-in lies the problem.  You can't really mature (with respect to relationships, romantic or platonic) until you've had a few.  I'm not saying to go out looking for one, but don't avoid them.  Cut your teeth on the first few, and you'll be better for it.  I know I am.

I'm so bad at confronting that stuff! I don't even really like hugs. I find high fives to be much more delightful I only even glomped (willingly...) on the last day of school, since it was a special, and saddening day. Now that I think about it, I doubt I'll be that safe at Kcon... 

[Kotoumi]

Aww, sad.  But I still think if you're going to breakup with someone, you owe it to them (unless they've been a jerk) to break up with them in person.  Glad it ended up working out though (you know what I mean).

...He got all paranoid because I didn't want to sit in the same chair as him.  There were two other boys around at the time this happened and I was nowhere near either of them.  xD

Yeah, I get what you mean there.

& Don't think I've given up hope, 'cause I haven't, but boyfriends just aren't my priority right now.  It's more a "pass high school and cosplay before love!" thing.  xD
It would be nice, though.  *shrug*  Guess I can't make up my mind.
(Or...maybe a better way of putting it would be "having someone would be nice, but if it doesn't happen right now, that's okay.")
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[DancingTofu]

Whenever I meet a girl I'm interested in, it's usually because they like music and video games.  I usually then find out that, while they have a fantastic personality, they always either don't like video games or don't like music.  That's not including the 2 (1 if you don't include internet relationships) girls that I did date.  Losing interest in a girl simply because she doesn't like video games probably seems kind of shallow, but when you consider that my primary occupations come down to Piano, Building ASC's (video game controllers), building arcade cabinets, repairing/modding PSP's and PS2's, and running DDR tournaments, it makes a lot of sense.

Regarding art schools, I'm straight, a guy, and given the choice, I would have gone to an art school.  At 17, I'm now on my way to a degree somewhere in the field of Architecture and Engineering (which I'll be using to get a job with Logitech or Sony USA or continuing my own small business), so it's a little late to go to an art school, even though I enjoy ceramics, music, drawing, creative writing, and painting, and I'm proficient at all of those.  I could go to AIP, but I think I can be more successful transferring to PSU, O of U, Reed, or Cornell. (the four colleges I'm considering after getting my AAOT)  LOLtangent.

btw, if any crazy gamer girls are reading this, feel free to PM me and we can hang out at GK (or just read my posts in the Plan Your Own Adventure forum and you'll know when I'm going to GK).  Guys too; I'm happy to hang out with anyone who shares my interest in video games, whether through a relationship or just a casual friendship.  I love social gaming. (AKA Arcade Gaming)

[nintendiehard]

Aww, sad.  But I still think if you're going to breakup with someone, you owe it to them (unless they've been a jerk) to break up with them in person.  Glad it ended up working out though (you know what I mean).

...He got all paranoid because I didn't want to sit in the same chair as him.  There were two other boys around at the time this happened and I was nowhere near either of them.  xD

Yeah, I get what you mean there.

& Don't think I've given up hope, 'cause I haven't, but boyfriends just aren't my priority right now.  It's more a "pass high school and cosplay before love!" thing.  xD
It would be nice, though.  *shrug*  Guess I can't make up my mind.
(Or...maybe a better way of putting it would be "having someone would be nice, but if it doesn't happen right now, that's okay.")
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Eh, it very well could have been that he could have been cheated on (or a close friend/relative could have been cheated on).  I know that's how I was after my first gf did that.  It's still really hard to repress those clingy urges, and it's been over 6 years!

Heh, I know what you mean.  For me, it's been a while since I've had a good relationship...that and there have been like, way too many couples bein' all couple-y around me lately.

Whenever I meet a girl I'm interested in, it's usually because they like music and video games.  I usually then find out that, while they have a fantastic personality, they always either don't like video games or don't like music.  That's not including the 2 (1 if you don't include internet relationships) girls that I did date.  Losing interest in a girl simply because she doesn't like video games probably seems kind of shallow, but when you consider that my primary occupations come down to Piano, Building ASC's (video game controllers), building arcade cabinets, repairing/modding PSP's and PS2's, and running DDR tournaments, it makes a lot of sense.

Regarding art schools, I'm straight, a guy, and given the choice, I would have gone to an art school.  At 17, I'm now on my way to a degree somewhere in the field of Architecture and Engineering (which I'll be using to get a job with Logitech or Sony USA or continuing my own small business), so it's a little late to go to an art school, even though I enjoy ceramics, music, drawing, creative writing, and painting, and I'm proficient at all of those.  I could go to AIP, but I think I can be more successful transferring to PSU, O of U, Reed, or Cornell. (the four colleges I'm considering after getting my AAOT)  LOLtangent.

btw, if any crazy gamer girls are reading this, feel free to PM me and we can hang out at GK (or just read my posts in the Plan Your Own Adventure forum and you'll know when I'm going to GK).  Guys too; I'm happy to hang out with anyone who shares my interest in video games, whether through a relationship or just a casual friendship.  I love social gaming. (AKA Arcade Gaming)

Wow, I wish I could meet a girl who's into stuff like that.  But it seems like those girls are never around.  Honestly, I'm not very picky...okay, that just made me sound desperate...what I meant to say is that I'm not super selective (that sounds better right?) as far as looks and stuff, but I'd really prefer a girl who has at least SIMILAR interests to my own.  I know what you're saying my friend.

Hmm, maybe we should start our own personal adds here!  (message to mods: kidding, kidding)

[Kotoumi]

Eh, it very well could have been that he could have been cheated on (or a close friend/relative could have been cheated on).  I know that's how I was after my first gf did that.  It's still really hard to repress those clingy urges, and it's been over 6 years!

Heh, I know what you mean.  For me, it's been a while since I've had a good relationship...that and there have been like, way too many couples bein' all couple-y around me lately.

I don't know about that, my friends that set me up with him never said anything about him having past girlfriends.  (We were about 12/13 at the time, I don't know what "normal" is with stuff like this)
All I know is that he hasn't had luck with girls since, and now proclaims that he's gay.  I doubt it's true, but it would be kind of funny in a twisted kind of way if I helped "turn someone gay".  :B
(And I type this with my GSA shirt on.  Good going, Koto!  8D)

Yeah, really.  A lot of the friends I frequently hang out with have boyfriends/girlfriends, and things get really awkward when they do that.
Something I find equally awkward, though, are people who think their sole purpose in life is to fall in love and tell you every time you see them.  Trust me, it gets ridiculously annoying.

[DancingTofu]

Well, you could try my tactic of hanging out at the arcade waiting for girls to show up and admire me. ^^

[nintendiehard]

Eh, it very well could have been that he could have been cheated on (or a close friend/relative could have been cheated on).  I know that's how I was after my first gf did that.  It's still really hard to repress those clingy urges, and it's been over 6 years!

Heh, I know what you mean.  For me, it's been a while since I've had a good relationship...that and there have been like, way too many couples bein' all couple-y around me lately.

I don't know about that, my friends that set me up with him never said anything about him having past girlfriends.  (We were about 12/13 at the time, I don't know what "normal" is with stuff like this)
All I know is that he hasn't had luck with girls since, and now proclaims that he's gay.  I doubt it's true, but it would be kind of funny in a twisted kind of way if I helped "turn someone gay".  :B
(And I type this with my GSA shirt on.  Good going, Koto!  8D)

Yeah, really.  A lot of the friends I frequently hang out with have boyfriends/girlfriends, and things get really awkward when they do that.
Something I find equally awkward, though, are people who think their sole purpose in life is to fall in love and tell you every time you see them.  Trust me, it gets ridiculously annoying.

Ah, well considering you two were that young, I'm gonna go ahead and scrub my previous statement.  I just tend to take the guy's side (without being sexist), mostly because I've been hurt before.  But that's just me.

Wow.  Most girls would be really upset if they think they had a hand in turning a guy gay.  No really, a former friend of mine was the last girlfriend of this one guy, and I thought it was funny.  She did not think so.  Almost made her cry.

Eh, it doesn't bother me as much, unless they're really idealistic about it.  "And we're gonna have a wedding on the beach, and we'll have 3 children, all girls, named Jenny, Janice, and Joanne, all J's and..." you get the idea.

Well, you could try my tactic of hanging out at the arcade waiting for girls to show up and admire me. ^^

*sigh* would that it were that easy.  I'm open to any other advice though.

[oslapedo]

Well, you could try my tactic of hanging out at the arcade waiting for girls to show up and admire me. ^^

XD I bet they flock and swarm, just so that they can ogle you in your robust manliness 

*sigh* would that it were that easy.  I'm open to any other advice though.

Confidence helps, I suppose, for people who are into all that mushy jizz  To be serious though, I would probably go for a guy who was carefree and easy going. If I was into lovely strife, that is

Edit: I just noticed Kotumi's delightfully enlightening words! Fight the powers of love my sistah! 

[Kotoumi]

Ah, well considering you two were that young, I'm gonna go ahead and scrub my previous statement.  I just tend to take the guy's side (without being sexist), mostly because I've been hurt before.  But that's just me.

Wow.  Most girls would be really upset if they think they had a hand in turning a guy gay.  No really, a former friend of mine was the last girlfriend of this one guy, and I thought it was funny.  She did not think so.  Almost made her cry.

Eh, it doesn't bother me as much, unless they're really idealistic about it.  "And we're gonna have a wedding on the beach, and we'll have 3 children, all girls, named Jenny, Janice, and Joanne, all J's and..." you get the idea.

It's all right, I do the same thing (But on the girl's side, of course.)~

I have been told I have a weird sense of humor before...either that or I'm more okay with it than most people.  I mean, as long as they find someone that they truly love, then what does it really matter?  Then again, I'm one of those people who think everyone should be open-minded and those who aren't are just being stubborn.  Hehe.  Aaaand before I go off into a tangent about it...

As for the last part...say hello to my friend.  8D  That's just like her, but it's more of a "I'm going to go to Japan and meet this actor and we'll know we're meant for each other, then live happily ever after in my traditional Japanese house in Hokkaido~ <333"
She knows it's a "one in a million" type thing, but that's not stopping her.  Kind of stalkerish, if you ask me.

@ oslapedo - *bows*  Fight on~!

[NeonFoxRocks]

 Meeting people is, imo, all about chance. Making that chance grow is the objective, find things your interested in and get into communitys (ie you like anime, then cosplay conventions! you like art? get on deviant art and get into a local group). The girls are out there but they arn't going to approach you, especialy on the internet. They don't know what you look like, what you want(a relationship needs to be mutual even if its just physical), or what your like.
 There is no total guide on women. You group 20 single random girls and if they tell the rock bottom truth, they are going to give a slew of what they want in a relationship, if the focus is physical or friendship, if they are looking for people what they're into or not, its 100% random due to personality and their history.
 So basicaly all i can say is up your chance and get out there, and do what you like

[Sayda]

I've dated, only had one serious relationship.
Honestly, I get tired of being hit on all the time. I'm into gaming, Anime, Manga, and I'm 'good-looking'.
I'm not one for denying what's true, or saying what isn't true.
But relationships are a basis for disaster. They knock you into a fantasy world that you think is amazing, when in reality everyone else looking at you thinks you're an idiot.
You don't realize what you do to your friends, or your family, especially if you're really tied up in the person you're dating.
Constantly worrying about them, fearing ridiculous things; all in all, you aren't truly happy.
Pretty much, don't bother if you're young, if you have the mental capacity to keep up with your friends, and keep out of the fantasy world and ontop of reality with relationships, then go for it.
Otherwise, you dig yourself this giant hole, and then when you're flat out dumped, it sucks, and you've got this huge hole to climb out of.

In conclusion boys and girls; relationships are not worth it. There are VERY few that turn out for the better, especially when you're young.

(The funny thing is, almost NONE of you will listen to my advice.)

[laurifer]

Whenever I meet a girl I'm interested in, it's usually because they like music and video games.  I usually then find out that, while they have a fantastic personality, they always either don't like video games or don't like music.  That's not including the 2 (1 if you don't include internet relationships) girls that I did date.  Losing interest in a girl simply because she doesn't like video games probably seems kind of shallow, but when you consider that my primary occupations come down to Piano, Building ASC's (video game controllers), building arcade cabinets, repairing/modding PSP's and PS2's, and running DDR tournaments, it makes a lot of sense.

Regarding art schools, I'm straight, a guy, and given the choice, I would have gone to an art school.  At 17, I'm now on my way to a degree somewhere in the field of Architecture and Engineering (which I'll be using to get a job with Logitech or Sony USA or continuing my own small business), so it's a little late to go to an art school, even though I enjoy ceramics, music, drawing, creative writing, and painting, and I'm proficient at all of those.  I could go to AIP, but I think I can be more successful transferring to PSU, O of U, Reed, or Cornell. (the four colleges I'm considering after getting my AAOT)  LOLtangent.

btw, if any crazy gamer girls are reading this, feel free to PM me and we can hang out at GK (or just read my posts in the Plan Your Own Adventure forum and you'll know when I'm going to GK).  Guys too; I'm happy to hang out with anyone who shares my interest in video games, whether through a relationship or just a casual friendship.  I love social gaming. (AKA Arcade Gaming)

Wow, I wish I could meet a girl who's into stuff like that.  But it seems like those girls are never around.  Honestly, I'm not very picky...okay, that just made me sound desperate...what I meant to say is that I'm not super selective (that sounds better right?) as far as looks and stuff, but I'd really prefer a girl who has at least SIMILAR interests to my own.  I know what you're saying my friend.

Hmm, maybe we should start our own personal adds here!  (message to mods: kidding, kidding)

It's hard to find girls like that...the girl to guy ratio is like...I dunno...20:1? Out of all my friends that are girls, none of the are serious gamers, and for the few that actually play video games, it's more of a casual, once in a blue moon type of thing. It's weird cos I've played a lot more video games this year than any previous year combined. It's probably cos I've picked up quite a few gamer guy friends. It's like, whenever I'm over at my friend's house playing video games, I'm the only girl >___>

I'm thinking about going to PDX LAN soon...I gotta prepare myself for all the creepy guys (not saying that everyone that goes is creepy, it's just the majority of them are lol). Good thing my gamer guy friends go like every year haha

[NeonFoxRocks]

 Heh sayda, I totaly agree, yet i think this is what having a relationship is all about.
 If i go though my daily conversation log in my head at least half of the people that talk to, or around me have to do with stupid drama! Oh this person sucks at work, oh the world is messed up, gas is so high blah blah blah.
 Relationships give false hope, friendship, but also a safe(r) sex situation. A lot of drama comes out of it, but there are some good points as well. I guess people shouldn't take it so seriously, but then again people eat drama up.... dilemma eh?

[makichan]

I only dated once before I was considered an adult. Sure I'd get asked out and I had crushes but I always had some sort of fear about relationships. When it came time that I started becoming desperate for hopeless romance I landed myself in two very wrong blind dates: One was extremely attractive but too promiscuous and the second well... not a match AT. ALL.
Come to find out, I was so fed up with men that I said to hell with them and went on vacation with two friends after I graduated. When I came back, I got a message through e-mail from a boy that I rarely talked to but had been introduced to several times (my sister even tried to get us together, teasing me and saying, "he's perfect for you! You can both be nerdy sweethearts together! lol lol" but I'd never listen because I never really knew much about him. Now it's been a year into our relationship and I can't imagine WHY we never hung out in high school. He's cute, I've always found him attractive, and we can both be complete nerds together. Go figure, when you stop looking for it, it knocks you head over heels.
Don't be desperate to find it, because that definitely leaves you open for hurt. At the same time, stay optimistic, because you never know when the right person might come along. Heck, you could be like me and never know that they were right in front of you.

[Higuma]

Lets see how do I start? Well, I will give some back round info before I give my thoughts on relationships. I got married at 18 years old, had my first child at 19 and am now turning 28 on July 5th. I now have 3 children and my wife and I will celebrate our 10th anniversary in Oct. Having said that here is my first point for all you young ones out there do NOT do what I did and get married or too serious while you are still young. Marriage, kids and relationships are very hard but are even harder when you are young. As you can see everything worked out for me, but me and my wife were very lucky that we were soul mates. I commend kalahan and eve for dating for so long and not getting married 5 months after they graduated high school like I did. Don't get me wrong I would not change what I did even if I could because I love my family but I would advise against it. Having been married for almost 10 years me and my wife have had our share of tough times, hell I can remember one year of our marriage where we fought constantly for the whole year(Im not kidding that year sucked hard). When you truly love someone and they love you back you can get through anything together and that kind of love is like no other relationship you can find on this planet. I am sorry Sayda but I have to disagree with you on the point that relationships are not worth it because they are if you work on them. Thats right I said work. After the inital puppy love or what I call the hazy love cloud phase is over it is Love and Work that keeps couples together. Even thought me and my wife are soul mates and meant to be together it took alot of hard work to keep our marriage going for 9+ years and will take more hard work to keep it going. But for her I am willing to put in the time and effort. Most relationships fail because one side or the other is not committed to do what it takes to keep the relationship going. I do agree with Sayda on not getting serious when you are young, even if you think you found your soul mate, take it slow. Love is worth finding and worth holding on to.

[Sayda]

I noted that most don't work out. Yours would be one of the few that did. But most people spend their entire lives trying to find love, and continue to hurt themselves in the process.
There's a lot more to life then finding someone to be with.
If you happen to find that someone, then great, if not, so what?
I would rather live a life full of adventure, then spend my time worrying about who's going to love me, and who I'm going to love.
That what friends, and family are for.

[Higuma]

I will agree with that, when I met my wife I had actually decided to stop dating for a year cause I was tired of all the games and crap. So I found love when I wasn't looking for it. I dont know why but that seems to be how it happens.

[ThiefKingsHier]

 I'm 24. I've never been in a serious relationship and I have no complaints at all. Guess I'm just the type who doesn't need that sort of thing

[Cassiopeia]

I'm 24. I've never been in a serious relationship and I have no complaints at all. Guess I'm just the type who doesn't need that sort of thing

My props to you

[nintendiehard]

I'm 24. I've never been in a serious relationship and I have no complaints at all. Guess I'm just the type who doesn't need that sort of thing

My props to you

Yeah.
I wish I could just forget about relationships that easily.

[DancingTofu]

I just start playin' games and all the girls leave (oh woe is me) along with any thoughts of 'em.  That's one of the reason's I've started playing more and more video games; if I'm always thinking about games I'm never worrying about relationships.

[Black~Rose]

Relationships suck I don't trust them. I don't really care about seeking love, it will find me when it wants to and until then it means very little to me. I've been hurt so many times already that I've finally just had it with guys and dating WHO THE HELL CARES!!! Guys just tell me they love me and don't really mean it. I'm not really that pretty, or mabey I am because pedophiles seem to hit on me a lot =_= I fell in love ONCE and I sure as hell wont trust myself with that again. Marriage is a no I dont want to be trapped in something like that I want to be free. Bottom line is relationships suck unless your one of those lucky people it will always go down and somehow we still get dragged into them... So I really think that its a dead end game and nothing more right now because It doesn't matter how you play it you will always lose.

[nintendiehard]

Wow.  Cynical aren't we?  But that's okay.  I've been hurt a lot too.  Trust me, men aren't the only bad ones in relationships.
I think you're decent looking, but I know exactly what you mean.  Girls have messed me up so much that I really feel ugly.  I don't know what I can do, or how I can change that fact...it's kinda weird.

But somehow I still wanna try, I don't know why.  Maybe I'm just hoping I'll find the right girl one day...I'm just tired of the waiting game.

[Black~Rose]

Yeah, well part of me does too but I shut that part away around december when someone I thought I know and like tried to freaking strangle me during the school basket ball game. and I was still being tourtured by "friends" that set me up with someone to get them away from someone else and when I broke up with him for trying to move way too fast and not slowing dow when I warned him (I believe in fair warnings) they were not happy and no longer my friends...

I've also seen how my friends change when they date.. I put my friends first but thats not always the case with people.

[nintendiehard]

Wow.  That guy is too much.  Hope he get's what's comin' to him.

Friends can really be a problem factor in relationships, I tells ya.
Heh, even though I'm a guy, I'm much more interested in a (as a friend recently coined a term) "cuddly" relationship.  I'm not really wanting f^*&-buddy as much right now.

Pff... everyone changes in relationships.

[Black~Rose]

well it wasn't that kind of fast. Truthfully I've never had a first kiss but he found it necessary to pull me aside and tell me he loved me... He hadn't even taken me on a real date so i got annoyed it was more his fantasy than mine.  But with all that talk of std's I don't think I'll be going down that path for a LONG LONG LOOOOOONNGGG time.

[nintendiehard]

*sigh*  Tisk tisk tisk.  Trust me, use of the L-word is NOT to be taken so lightly.  It's gotten me into big trouble too.  It's too dangerous.
Still...haven't ever been kissed?  That's kinda interesting.

Yeah yeah, that's definitely a reason to avoid the activity.

[Black~Rose]

Nope never and I'm the only one in my group of friends who hasn't.. And with all the trouble I've gone through I realize that I don't want a boyfriend.. Just a first kiss and thats not possible unless I surprise one of my guy friends and then say "thanks, now I know" lol

and there is a BIG difference between liking someones looks and truly likening who they are.

[Sayda]

I think you're decent looking

Ouch.
Black~Rose, in my opinion, I think you're beautiful.
Relationships are something you should avoid while you're young, and focus more on who you are, and what you want to do with your life.
Because once you find out who you are, things are a lot easier, and you know what to look for in someone; don't fall for same lame-o who's just in it for the sex, and who's going to treat you poorly.
Once you find out what it is that you want and who you are as a person, you know what kind of people to avoid.

[Black~Rose]

I think you're decent looking

Ouch.
Black~Rose, in my opinion, I think you're beautiful.
Relationships are something you should avoid while you're young, and focus more on who you are, and what you want to do with your life.
Because once you find out who you are, things are a lot easier, and you know what to look for in someone; don't fall for same lame-o who's just in it for the sex, and who's going to treat you poorly.
Once you find out what it is that you want and who you are as a person, you know what kind of people to avoid.

Thanks ^///^ But yeah I agree one hundred percent.  Its annoying to be used and what not so I really don't care anymore.. I have friends that love me and accept me. I don't need some guy telling me sugar coated lies to coax me into something I'll regret. I know all too much about lies and two faced idiots. My family is a great example....  and the list goes on.  Currently I'm trying to convince my friend that she does not have a void and does not need to fill it.

[nintendiehard]

I think you're decent looking

Ouch.
Black~Rose, in my opinion, I think you're beautiful.

Oh come on.  What do you want from me?  It's nearly impossible for me to say anything like that without sounding like a creepy stalker guy pedophile.  Really, it's hard to come off positively in my case...guess I'm too old.

[Black~Rose]

I think you're decent looking

Ouch.
Black~Rose, in my opinion, I think you're beautiful.

Oh come on.  What do you want from me?  It's nearly impossible for me to say anything like that without sounding like a creepy stalker guy pedophile.  Really, it's hard to come off positively in my case...guess I'm too old.

at least your concerned about not sounding this way.

my pedophile experiences
* construction worker whistled at me..
*weired dude sat next to me on a bench and asked me creepy questions
*OLD OLD man asked me for a cigarette and then said "hey your pretty cute"

lol I like traveling in groups of friends because of people like the ones on that list.

[Sayda]

Friends and family love you unconditionally, I'm still not sure why people find the need to find someone who loves them on conditions. ~ ~
But most people don't understand that concept, and there aren't very many people in the world who are truly genuine, especially when it comes to things like relationships.
Some learn faster then others, though. Sticking with friends and family for now is a good choice.

I think you're decent looking

Ouch.
Black~Rose, in my opinion, I think you're beautiful.

Oh come on.  What do you want from me?  It's nearly impossible for me to say anything like that without sounding like a creepy stalker guy pedophile.  Really, it's hard to come off positively in my case...guess I'm too old.

Nah dude it's cool, we all kinda mess up without meaning to sometimes.

[Black~Rose]

yup, its nice to find someone that agrees with me. a lot of my friends think I'm crazy for it, or call me a prude (these are not my best friends that call me a prude or crazy, but yeah even they don't get it. Well mabey one friend gets it but he has a different crush every day and its kinda funny actually)

[nintendiehard]

Heh, I dunno.  I don't think I'm messing up anything.  I guess it's just what happens.  As such, I tend to have to be particularly careful about what I say, and it just ends up sounding kinda stupid.  As Sayda, so kindly, pointed out.

[Black~Rose]

haha You wouldnt belive how many stupid things pop out of my mouth

Like one time the dogs were scratching at my door and I wanted them to shut up so what I meant to say was "Shut up or I'll shove a stick up your butt!"

and it came out

"Shut up or I'll shove a butt up your stick"

Stupid? YES
Funney? HECK YEAH!!

[nintendiehard]

Huh...

That IS a Fauxpas.

[Black~Rose]

whats a Fauxpass?

[nintendiehard]

...  It's pronounced Fo Paw.  Make sense now?

[NeonFoxRocks]

huh fox paw? (geek moment: Faux pas [false positive pretty much] is a misguided gesture aka bringing steak to a vegetarian party =P)

Yeah, well part of me does too but I shut that part away around december when someone I thought I know and like tried to freaking strangle me during the school basket ball game.

Lol i remember when i was in high school a person i thought was a friend fliped out on me and grabed my head and started kneeing me the next day he said he didnt do it 0.o freaky kids

More on the subject yeah I agree with nintend, its hard to not come off like a freak and still give a complement on the internet, mostly cause you cant judge a persons reaction with no emotion (faces give more response than words) thus we get a faux pas... damn this post ended up where it started...

[Black~Rose]

thats true it is better to see the face.. especialy with me lol I have a very animated face.

[nintendiehard]

Very good NFX.  Faux Pas literally means False Step (so an accident really).

Heh.  I know if I could meet a lot of the people I see online, they'd be a lot less reserved around me.  I'm great in person, but few people ever give me the chance, y'know?

[Black~Rose]

yeah I know how that is.. I can be a bit eccentric so people dont really get me at first but if ya get to know me I'm not a bad person and I'm capable of being serious

[nintendiehard]

Exactly!  I usually tell all my friends, "Only take about 25% of everything I say seriously".  It's proven to be a good rule of thumb.

I like to think that I get ya (to an extent) already.  I already like you.

[NeonFoxRocks]

Truths truths... yeah false step doesn't connect to me as much as false positive acronyms are the way people read, you know first last letters all that jazz
Whenever i'm on the bus people don't sit next to me nearly ever... i think its my bushy brows maybe they present a mean image... or something how the hell am i suppose to know what people are thinking lol

[Black~Rose]

Exactly!  I usually tell all my friends, "Only take about 25% of everything I say seriously".  It's proven to be a good rule of thumb.

I like to think that I get ya (to an extent) already.  I already like you.

YAYY I have friends ^_^ lol

Truths truths... yeah false step doesn't connect to me as much as false positive acronyms are the way people read, you know first last letters all that jazz
Whenever i'm on the bus people don't sit next to me nearly ever... i think its my bushy brows maybe they present a mean image... or something how the hell am i suppose to know what people are thinking lol

It sucks how people judge on image.. Its not right yet not escapable.

[NeonFoxRocks]

Its not a big problem i guess cause at cons i get talked to a bunch, and thats kinda the people i'd rather talk to. Most girls are confused when i say i like anime, and theres not much to talk about besides anime, games, movies, and music... except depressing stuff

[Black~Rose]

yeah I know how you feel

I escape that by talking about other non anime shows, music, and funny stories that happened to me and my retarded friends

[nintendiehard]

I wish I was able to escape so easily.
But, my life isn't as friendly to the anime fan in me.

[Black~Rose]

why not?

[nintendiehard]

Mature college person life.
Army life.
No time to join an anime club or anything to meet fellow like-minded people.

[Black~Rose]

army? wow

[NeonFoxRocks]

I thought i heard you were in the service on one thread, you active? and you can get into clubs, all it means is less sleep =P

[nintendiehard]

Well, it's the ROTC, which is really hard to explain.  basically, I get my college paid for, do some training throughout, and after, I serve some time in the Army as an Officer (not just a regular enlisted guy).  If nothing else, it means a great paying job, straight outta college.

[NeonFoxRocks]

Yeah i know what ya go through, my bros a butter bar (at least the last time i checked) in the chair force. I was going to get into the air force but during tech school my mom passed away and i couldnt keep up academicly (mostly cause i was in the same class when i got back from 10 days emergancy leave)

[Black~Rose]

dangerous one though isn't it?

[nintendiehard]

Depends.  Like me, if I get what I want, I'll be a Signal Corps officer.

It's a great misconception that everyone in the Army is gonna get shot at, at some point.

[NeonFoxRocks]

you just need to know what your getting into and your deployment possabilitys now theres this one guy i met in high school, heavy set, not the brightest, confided in my friends that he was 'going to be an infantry in the army'... i'm sorry but thats not the safest place =/
I was going to go into computer programing and deployment was fairly low since we would know 'the militarys top secrets' but visual basic is hardly the computer language that could do any harm lol

[nintendiehard]

Yeah, that sounds like Air Force.

I don't know though, I don't do so well on my grads n such, so I'm probably not gonna get what I want.

Probably some boring desk job.

[Sayda]

I was thinking of joining the Army at some point, but I'm still unsure, and if I'm unsure, that means I probably shouldn't join.
What I really want, is to be a police officer, which isn't any less dangerous than the Army. ~ ~
Eventually though, my ultimate dream is to be a part of the CIA. I want an adventurous job, which, is also another reason why I avoid relationships.
Being tied down when I want to achieve something so high, isn't something I want, or need at the moment.

[nintendiehard]

Ah, an interesting set of occupations.
Well, getting onto the force isn't gonna be easy. 
A tour in the milirtary is always good for helping you get into the police, and it could also expedite getting into a federal job like CIA too.  I'm not trying to sound like a recruiter, I'm just statin' a fact.

Personally, I'd think a relationship with a supportive woman would really help you keep your cool in tough situations.

[ThiefKingsHier]

 I've always wanted to join the military but I can't I decided to go into law. I figured it would booooring but that in the end it would be useful so I gave it a try.

And I LOVE it. It seems I'm one of those lucky people who found what it is they truely want to do, in the first try even! XD

[Sayda]

Touring would help, huh?
I went on a ride-along to make sure it was what I wanted to do, and it was depressing when I had to get out of the cop car. ~ ~
The Officer I was with said that school would help, along with any additional things I could do on the side while I wait, since I'm not old enough to be a part of the Law yet.

And, if I were to be in a relationship, I'd prefer a man, girls are nice and all, but I'm one myself, and I'd rather have a man, not a boy, or a girl, but a man. Yum.

[Black~Rose]

My dream is to be a singer but I'm afraid of all that fame.. I'm not sure if I could handle all the judgment and pressure.

[NeonFoxRocks]

I wanna be a dragon! errm maybe a teacher or a 3d artist i dunno really

[Black~Rose]

will have anyones support when I do the open mic kareoke?

[oslapedo]

I will support you! I myself intend on doing karoake, and I have like, -0% talent. I just hope I'm not booed off 

[DancingTofu]

There was a GIIIIIRL at the ARCAAAAAAADE!

Yesterday.  Haven't heard from her yet though.

Yes, I totally forgot to post that I was going to the arcade, which is probably why there were girls there. ;P

[laurifer]

There was a GIIIIIRL at the ARCAAAAAAADE!

Yesterday.  Haven't heard from her yet though.

Yes, I totally forgot to post that I was going to the arcade, which is probably why there were girls there. ;P

We'll probably hit the arcade sometime this summer. Social gaming = awesome!

And by we I mean the boys and I. Tee hee.

[DancingTofu]

There was a GIIIIIRL at the ARCAAAAAAADE!

Yesterday.  Haven't heard from her yet though.

Yes, I totally forgot to post that I was going to the arcade, which is probably why there were girls there. ;P

We'll probably hit the arcade sometime this summer. Social gaming = awesome!

And by we I mean the boys and I. Tee hee.

I don't see why more girls don't play video games for the men.  Seriously, with the 20:1 (M:F) ratio for srs gaming, the top 5% is probably worth it.

I'm gonna be there fridays and mondays pretty much all summer.

[laurifer]

There was a GIIIIIRL at the ARCAAAAAAADE!

Yesterday.  Haven't heard from her yet though.

Yes, I totally forgot to post that I was going to the arcade, which is probably why there were girls there. ;P

We'll probably hit the arcade sometime this summer. Social gaming = awesome!

And by we I mean the boys and I. Tee hee.

I don't see why more girls don't play video games for the men.  Seriously, with the 20:1 (M:F) ratio for srs gaming, the top 5% is probably worth it.

I'm gonna be there fridays and mondays pretty much all summer.

Video games are mah secret weapon!

Well, I like to think it is. I like video games.

[DancingTofu]

That's what they're there for.

[laurifer]

A pity that more girls don't utilize it. Or maybe I don't want them to, so I can haz moar men lololololol

[DancingTofu]

You're so greedy.

[laurifer]

I like my men

[totemo_oishii]

hmmm arcades, huh...[ponders]

[laurifer]

hmmm arcades, huh...[ponders]

Let's go pick up some gaiz.


lawl jk

[Black~Rose]

I like video games but usually the ones with story lines like FFVII and other square enix products. I dont end up playing them too often though.. I love super smash bros meele lol Peach B**** Slaps and I won against my friend B**** slapping them MWAHHAHAHAHAHAHA!!

[totemo_oishii]

hmmm arcades, huh...[ponders]

Let's go pick up some gaiz.


lawl jk

for a second I thought that said "galz" instead of "gaiz"

[laurifer]

hmmm arcades, huh...[ponders]

Let's go pick up some gaiz.


lawl jk

We could do that. We has the power
for a second I thought that said "galz" instead of "gaiz"

[Black~Rose]

=_= I think all guys think about is girls and video games lol

but then my friend shelby pointed out that they probably think about other things too like food but they can only think about one thing at a time.

[totemo_oishii]

only some guyz

[Black~Rose]

I think more than some lol

[ThiefKingsHier]

 The first time I played smash bros was at a cosplay party/get together.

   I was in another room when someone yelled " Oi Renji! Come play smash brothers with us!"

   I told them " I'd like to, but I don't know how"

   He lol'd " I think you'll do just fine. The winner is whomever can take the most damage without dying!!" XD

 Yea, i kicked their asses..rather I kicked my own. I really want that game now.

   

[ThiefKingsHier]

=_= I think all guys think about is girls and video games lol

but then my friend shelby pointed out that they probably think about other things too like food but they can only think about one thing at a time.

 Hey now, that isn't fair!
 They can too think about all three at once.

 As in" Woman  make me a pie! I can't get up cuz ahm busy playin mah video game!!

[Black~Rose]

=_= I think all guys think about is girls and video games lol

but then my friend shelby pointed out that they probably think about other things too like food but they can only think about one thing at a time.

 Hey now, that isn't fair!
 They can too think about all three at once.

 As in" Woman  make me a pie! I can't get up cuz ahm busy playin mah video game!!

Okay they think about sexual things related to women and cant think of anything else at the same time.. well mabey food..... lol I have strang friends dont ask... I'm the innocent one lol

[DancingTofu]

Actually, when men think sexually, their testosterone levels increase to make them more manly, so that their sexual thoughts don't go wasted.  This causes them to wind up getting distracted and think about things like sports and fashion when they're engaging in a sexual act, while women tend to focus more fully on sexual acts.  Unlike crap like "men think about sex every 5 seconds", this is a scientific fact supported by knowledge of the effects of hormones.

[Black~Rose]

Actually, when men think sexually, their testosterone levels increase to make them more manly, so that their sexual thoughts don't go wasted.  This causes them to wind up getting distracted and think about things like sports and fashion when they're engaging in a sexual act, while women tend to focus more fully on sexual acts.  Unlike crap like "men think about sex every 5 seconds", this is a scientific fact supported by knowledge of the effects of hormones.

thats just another way of saying not only are men stupid but they are hormonaly add

[DancingTofu]

D:

...

DDD:

This topic is about love. :<

[Black~Rose]

It is and that would just be anouther reason not to chase men.... They are stupid and hormonnaly add lol (I will never let that go lol omg its sooo funny)

[DancingTofu]

Love =/= chasing men :C

[Black~Rose]

whats that supposed to mean?

[laurifer]

D:

...

DDD:

This topic is about love. :<

*hugs&patpat*

Dey b hatin'

[DancingTofu]

[totemo_oishii]

Ich liebe dich

[Sayda]

Actually, women think about sex more then men do.
If anything, women are more perverted then men are, men just aren't afraid to say what they think, while women keep it to themselves.
And the thoughts that they keep to themselves are much more intense then the thoughts of men.
So in reality, women are the pigs, they just keep their thoughts to themselves.

[laurifer]

Actually, women think about sex more then men do.
If anything, women are more perverted then men are, men just aren't afraid to say what they think, while women keep it to themselves.
And the thoughts that they keep to themselves are much more intense then the thoughts of men.
So in reality, women are the pigs, they just keep their thoughts to themselves.

That is so true.



And....ya tebya lublu!

[NeonFoxRocks]

Actually, women think about sex more then men do.
If anything, women are more perverted then men are, men just aren't afraid to say what they think, while women keep it to themselves.
And the thoughts that they keep to themselves are much more intense then the thoughts of men.
So in reality, women are the pigs, they just keep their thoughts to themselves.

Guys know this, but not till they are actually in a relationship i think heh... but maybe thats just me, the only girls i've been with are aggressive ones =P

[Black~Rose]

Actually, women think about sex more then men do.
If anything, women are more perverted then men are, men just aren't afraid to say what they think, while women keep it to themselves.
And the thoughts that they keep to themselves are much more intense then the thoughts of men.
So in reality, women are the pigs, they just keep their thoughts to themselves.

Are you inside the mind of a woman? No. I think its pretty much equal and it depends on the person. Most people say perverted things as a joke because they think its funny, take me and my circle of friends for instance.  Both sides think the other is incompetent and a pig so therefor both sides are equal.

[makichan]

I really don't think you can generalize men or women when it comes to love, dating, and relationships. We're all different *shrugs*

[ThiefKingsHier]

I really don't think you can generalize men or women when it comes to love, dating, and relationships. We're all different *shrugs*

Seconded. Generalizations are incredibly lame and usually only lead to problems.

[Black~Rose]

I really don't think you can generalize men or women when it comes to love, dating, and relationships. We're all different *shrugs*

Seconded. Generalizations are incredibly lame and usually only lead to problems.

yeah well I agree I think we are all equal both sides think the same of each other most of the time so we might as well back off. I joke about guys bing pigs and what not because its funny but I know that not every guy in the world is like that

[oslapedo]

@ Blac Rose
Calling the entire population of men pigs... that doesn't really seem too funny Can't we joke nicely?

[Black~Rose]

lol well I never actually called them pigs before, it was just the word sayda used for women so It was on the brain.

I joke about them being untidy and what not, and I know there are a lot out there that are pervs but I do know that not everyone is like that and I don't use those jokes around people who let me know they take offense from them. So sorry if it upsets you.

[Sayda]

Are you inside the mind of a woman? No.

Hah. Actually, I hope I am. As I'm a female.

[Black~Rose]

Are you inside the mind of a woman? No.

Hah. Actually, I hope I am. As I'm a female.

lol sorry I guess you are then but not all women are like that and niether are all men

[Sayda]

It's alright, I'm pretty androgynous, so. ~ ~
I wasn't meaning to sound like I was sure all women were like that.
Women in general tend to think more about sex then men, but not in the normal form of just plain, sex.
They tend to think about sexual things in different ways, more often then men do, as men usually think of just sex in general.

[Black~Rose]

what does androgynous mean?

[Sayda]

Meaning I can pull off either gender.

[Black~Rose]

oh, lol I cant pull off a guy, marluxia mabey but he's pretty girly XD

[oslapedo]

lol well I never actually called them pigs before, it was just the word sayda used for women so It was on the brain.

I joke about them being untidy and what not, and I know there are a lot out there that are pervs but I do know that not everyone is like that and I don't use those jokes around people who let me know they take offense from them. So sorry if it upsets you.

It doesn't really upset me. I just want to ensure universal happiness for all! The thing I dislike about generalzations between the genders is that for every man that's perceived to be a lazy slob, I could think of several women that would also fit such an archetype.

All is well though Onto the topic's intent! Love! I love everyone! (In a completely non-sexual, and 100% platonic way, but still!)

[ThiefKingsHier]

Meaning I can pull off either gender.

I almost could but I love flowers too damned much.

I'll be walking along the strip mall: "OMG!! I need more video games and porn! I don't have enough porn..hey look Lillies! I love lillies..they're soo pretty. Espeically in this color. BUY ME SOME LILIES!" XD

[oslapedo]

You could pose as a metrosexual guy if you wanted 

[XFD]

As a crusty old geezer (26), until you're at least 24 your relationships should be about having someone close that shares similar interests or at least does fun activities with you. Go see the world, make soda bombs, whatever. With the exceptional handful of cases, going for something that will last forever is too much. Your interests will change, what you value will change, financial situations will influence how you live, etc.

So yeah, getting hurt sucks. But don't let that discourage you and don't go into a new relationship expecting 50 years of marriage and 2.35 kids. Just go have fun as long as you can Thats where you'll grow the most. And hey, if it doesn't end, BONUS!

[NeonFoxRocks]

Are you inside the mind of a woman?

YES! for i am mentok the miiiindtaker! sorry had to do it.
I coulda pulled off being a girl, till i got vary hairy =P

[ThiefKingsHier]

As a crusty old geezer (26), until you're at least 24 your relationships should be about having someone close that shares similar interests or at least does fun activities with you. Go see the world, make soda bombs, whatever. With the exceptional handful of cases, going for something that will last forever is too much. Your interests will change, what you value will change, financial situations will influence how you live, etc.

So yeah, getting hurt sucks. But don't let that discourage you and don't go into a new relationship expecting 50 years of marriage and 2.35 kids. Just go have fun as long as you can Thats where you'll grow the most. And hey, if it doesn't end, BONUS!

It's really sad. My sister is only 22 and already she has had SOO many boyfriends. Every time, and I mean every time there is some new guy shes mad at.

A lot of people do that just for fun and they don't want anything serious.  Not my sister she dearly wants a serious- long-term relationship. The worst part of all is that despite being through the same crap wither EVERY guy ( and I hate to say it but have been nearly a hundred) she still says " I met this incredible! Guy he's totally different than all the others!" Then  she gets soo  disappointed. The men aren't going to change until she does.

It's really very sad. Honestly though I can't feel sorry for her because she has such an overbearing ego.

[XFD]

It's really sad. My sister is only 22 and already she has had SOO many boyfriends. Every time, and I mean every time there is some new guy shes mad at.

A lot of people do that just for fun and they don't want anything serious.  Not my sister she dearly wants a serious- long-term relationship. The worst part of all is that despite being through the same crap wither EVERY guy ( and I hate to say it but have been nearly a hundred) she still says " I met this incredible! Guy he's totally different than all the others!" Then  she gets soo  disappointed. The men aren't going to change until she does.

It's really very sad. Honestly though I can't feel sorry for her because she has such an overbearing ego.

The fact that she states that just means that she's setting herself up for failure from the beginning. What was it, the definition of insanity is trying the same thing over and over and expecting different results?

Come to think of it, there are also people who are in love with being in love. Once the WAFF goes away, they move on to the next one.

[Daxe]

Come to think of it, there are also people who are in love with being in love. Once the WAFF goes away, they move on to the next one.

I was going to stay out of this thread as its largely full of younglings trying to console other younglings about the ways of the heart. Something a crazy teacher of mine used to call the blind leading the blind. However I give kudos to you XFD. QFT. Often times people are just in love with the butterfly feeling. NEWS FLASH, that nervous energy goes away. After that, its about whether you actually love each other, not "being in love".

Earlier a married man spoke up in this thread about relationships being lots of work. I give him kudos too. He's been through it, he knows. Dont expect to find that prince charming, be forever high on love and expect the relationship to be on easy street. It doesnt work that way kiddies.

[XFD]

On the idea of prince charming, I have a particularly harsh view and I can't really fault girls on it.

Prince charming doesn't exist. The character type was forged from old gender roles and beliefs where the woman was basically a maid and a source of offspring. Disney did a fantastic job of selling the idea. Many guys try to fit the hero template because it gives us a feeling and sense of worth to you ladies. The lady folk are sold the idea that there is a guy out there who looks perfect, doesn't mind any particular faults of the woman, etc etc. A pretty face and a reliable person.

Consider this against all of your ended relationships; it's these typecasts are total bull to the real thing aren't they?

In the same vein with the post above mentioning the married fellow, this is why it's work. Both parties in a relationship have to maintain each other, support each other and value the good qualities their mate has over their faults. Effort has to be made to work on lessening the impact of eachother's faults too. Someone mentioned that they broke up with someone because the person was too clingy. Did they have good traits? Probably. Were they outweighed by their faults? Depends on the person you're asking. This is why it's good to at least try for a few relationships. You'll learn about what things bother you, what things you can tolerate and learn a lot about yourself.

So the point of this is to restate that fairytale characters do not exist, so one should never try to compare the person they're with against something that is fictitious. It's a part of growing up

[DancingTofu]

So yeah, getting hurt sucks. But don't let that discourage you and don't go into a new relationship expecting 50 years of marriage and 2.35 kids. Just go have fun as long as you can Thats where you'll grow the most. And hey, if it doesn't end, BONUS!

/the truth

I have a tactic of getting pre-emptively dumped.  What I do is, after getting friendly with a girl, I let all masks down and let her judge the real thing.  Most of the time (17/19, working on my 20th), the girl simply loses interest, but those two relationships that did go down were FANTASTIC (but did eventually end, sadly).  This allows me to get the feeling of rejection without wasting time and thought on failed relationships.  I get all the benefits of being flirtatious and young without the deficits!

[Black~Rose]

true at this age it is about learning but I think I've learned all that I can handle just by observing other people. I also don't ask guys out they have to ask me, I'm too shy to do the asking. I did sometimes but not anymore because I'm not wasting my time looking for a date or something.

[XFD]

true at this age it is about learning but I think I've learned all that I can handle just by observing other people. I also don't ask guys out they have to ask me, I'm too shy to do the asking. I did sometimes but not anymore because I'm not wasting my time looking for a date or something.

So if I could offer one trinket of advice on this, don't take on the mindset of "asking a guy out." Instead just be aware of any guy you find interesting in a group of friends or social event. Talk with the person you're interested in in a general manner. Don't ask them out. Just talk. Casual conversation doesn't have an opportunity to be rejected. You will find out that it'll work out naturally if there is a mutual attraction and it will come without all of the heavy drama of "do they like me!?" Without the situation being so loaded, something might start as a simple invitation with some friends for some activity and would evolve to actual dating. In this manner, you're getting past the masks most people put on.

If there is one thing we're great at (as humans) it's making things way harder than they need to be.

[Black~Rose]

well yeah I know that now, thats what I mean by not worrying about all that little stuff and waiting for love to find me when it wants too. but good advice nonetheless.

[ThiefKingsHier]

true at this age it is about learning but I think I've learned all that I can handle just by observing other people. I also don't ask guys out they have to ask me, I'm too shy to do the asking. I did sometimes but not anymore because I'm not wasting my time looking for a date or something.

So if I could offer one trinket of advice on this, don't take on the mindset of "asking a guy out." Instead just be aware of any guy you find interesting in a group of friends or social event. Talk with the person you're interested in in a general manner. Don't ask them out. Just talk. Casual conversation doesn't have an opportunity to be rejected. You will find out that it'll work out naturally if there is a mutual attraction and it will come without all of the heavy drama of "do they like me!?" Without the situation being so loaded, something might start as a simple invitation with some friends for some activity and would evolve to actual dating. In this manner, you're getting past the masks most people put on.

If there is one thing we're great at (as humans) it's making things way harder than they need to be.

Aint that the truth.

I really hate how people are always adding little nuances o 'rules'.

I believe that the person your truly meant to, and will be with will the person you don't have to ask nor will ask you. 

[NeonFoxRocks]

yeah but really your actions (may) contribute to your acquisition of a relationship. Say if your shy then your most likely candidates are someone whos aggressive and takes the initiative or a blind date thats someone as shy... I guess thats where we get these 'rules', peoples own experiences reflected in advice

[Black~Rose]

there are no "rules" its different for everyone

[makichan]

-getting back to the perfect man idea-
I don't know, I always pictured that a relationship with prince charming would seem rather dull after a while. Also, if he's perfect at everything he's also quite intimidating. Since I'm so full of flaws I figure that I'd prefer someone on an equal playing field, haha. xD
The thing that I always fall hardest for though is a great sense of humor. Sure looks are great too (and let's face it, we all have preferences, right?) but a man that can make me laugh always has a special place in my heart.

[Mitsukai Mizu Amaya]

I am 16 and completely and irreversibly celibate for life. \(=^0^=)/

I don't count either of the two past, since both ended in exactly seven days.

[NeonFoxRocks]

-getting back to the perfect man idea-
I don't know, I always pictured that a relationship with prince charming would seem rather dull after a while. Also, if he's perfect at everything he's also quite intimidating. Since I'm so full of flaws I figure that I'd prefer someone on an equal playing field, haha. xD
The thing that I always fall hardest for though is a great sense of humor. Sure looks are great too (and let's face it, we all have preferences, right?) but a man that can make me laugh always has a special place in my heart.

maybe the perfect man would make you feel like you have no flaws aawwwwww /swoon

[makichan]

-getting back to the perfect man idea-
I don't know, I always pictured that a relationship with prince charming would seem rather dull after a while. Also, if he's perfect at everything he's also quite intimidating. Since I'm so full of flaws I figure that I'd prefer someone on an equal playing field, haha. xD
The thing that I always fall hardest for though is a great sense of humor. Sure looks are great too (and let's face it, we all have preferences, right?) but a man that can make me laugh always has a special place in my heart.

maybe the perfect man would make you feel like you have no flaws aawwwwww /swoon

D'aaaw, sounds like some sort of romance manga.
Heh, I bet it's out there already 

[DancingTofu]

I am 16 and completely and irreversibly celibate for life. \(=^0^=)/

I don't count either of the two past, since both ended in exactly seven days.

So when did you decide to become a nun?

[XFD]

So when did you decide to become a nun?

Probably when Ragnarok started passing out bitchin' stat boosters to Nuns.

[EveofAbyss]

Don't you know? Nuns are in with Abel Nightroad....who wouldn't want to roll with the Catholic HellHound? lol